Transformed to Thrive — Nurturing Your Heart — B.E.L.I.E.V.E.

Transformed to Thrive — Nurturing Your Heart — B.E.L.I.E.V.E.

Living well is a response. A response to life that is natural, easy and perfect for YOU. It’s not a choice to perform based on another’s ideas of what is best for you, but a response to an inner knowing. A “what” that will serve you, to be your best: in mind, body and spirit. Experiencing wholeness sets your life at ease. A knowing that guides you in movement, sustenance, thought, speech, in complete being, so that you thrive. For so long we have sought solutions outside ourselves instead of knowing our self and our innate ability to respond to what is the best. As you become enlivened to the truth of your unique person, your heart, you can experience true liberation — a freedom that allows you to thrive.

Self care is of the utmost importance; the most beneficial ingredient. Find your truth and live it. It is an expression of faith, a following of your heart and sensitivities and embracing truth to develop your inner listening skills and then experience miraculous transformations.

Remember: There is nothing, no thing outside of any of us that offers healing, wholeness, or peace. It lies within us, the key is the ability to unfold our tightly protected or conditioned heart so it can relate and pour forth its blessings on our life. Your heart can be sensitive and fiercely strong at the same time. It embodies the presence of both feminine and masculine energies. When your heart is balanced and open, it offers the truest form of blessing on your life as possible. It is the miracle you seek. It is the peace that passes all understanding. Nurturing, trusting, developing your heart is the most important task to be about in your daily life: it is the key to thriving. The transformation in physical life is the evidence of this truth. This is not a place of judging yourself for unfulfilled desires or negative qualities. It is a place to begin to love yourself unconditionally in spite of shortcomings and disappointments. When you can believe this in your heart, then you can experience a change in behavior: B.E.L.I.E.V.E Behaving Everyday Like I’m Eternal, Valuable, Entitled.

 

 

 

Neat conversation

I had a neat conversation with a man and his teenage son a few days ago. I was struck  when I saw them standing at the grocery deli with arms wrapped around each other’s backs. I wanted to rush over and give them both a big hug; it was such a beautiful sight. As I walked near, I resisted the urge, but I did say to myself, I actually need some cheese. So as I stood next to them, I smiled and asked,”Is this your son?” The father looked at me, smiled and said, “Yes.” The son looked at me and I said, “I love you, you are beautiful.” The son reacted by taking his hand and pounding it on his ear, I noticed both ears were deformed from what seemed like numerous strikes through the years. Neurological damage, I assumed caused the involuntary response of head banging, possibly frustration too (I hope I didn’t upset him). The father gently took his son’s arm and placed it around his back. I learned from the father, as the son listened with understanding, they were heading to the fair. How fun, I exclaimed. I asked the son if he liked to swing, thinking of Jude and how he loves swinging. The father answered for his non-verbal son and said, “He loves the carnival rides, but the not the swing. He doesn’t like to move backwards.” We chatted a few more moments and then they moved on. As I reflect back on this conversation many things struck me. But two stand out. The son, Ben, likes moving forward, not backward. Wisdom for us all. The other thing is that, I wish it was not unusual or odd to see a father and son standing arm in arm at the deli line. I am etching this sight in my longtime memory. We may see a disabled person, but he is a perfect soul and we all need each other in some way or another.

Focus on Feeling Good…..and a little child shall lead them.

My little granddaughter heard an older brother scream in frustration about all the things he hated. Hours later when the thought was put in her head about time for bed, she started quietly saying all the things she hated. I ask her about something I knew she loved, her princesses. She immediately changed her attitude and said, “I love my princesses.” She is so close to purity at 5 that she was able to make an immediate transition from feeling bad to feeling good. She relaxed and enjoyed the music that was playing in the vehicle, got home and was easy about readying for bedtime.

It may take us longer from feeling bad to feeling good, because we carry a lot of baggage in the form of grief and unwanted experiences, but the possibility for us is exactly the same. We can get to feeling better, we can experience joy, relief. We just need to change our point of focus onto what we love, what makes us feel good. This simple yet profound exercise, repeated over time changes our life to what we know to be true from within: the deepest yearning, that propels us and gives breath to our dreams, ambitions and goals.

Take an evolutionary leap to a place that makes your life harmonious and happy. How? By realizing that you are a powerful creator. We all are.
Detoxify your mind, by allowing good feeling thoughts to pervade.
Focus on feeling good. Place good feeling thoughts in your mind.
Find the best feeling thought you can muster and stay with it until you feel better. Then continue, moment after moment, day after day. Live your life….pay your bills, take out the garbage, but always practice feeling good. Then see your life transform.

What Lights Me Up? What Lights You Up?

IMG_4744Do you desire to get more satisfaction and peace from your everyday life?  Do you sometimes feel as if you are stuck in a rut?  If so, here is a little exercise to help you back on track.  A way to do more of what makes you feel good, so in the meantime (that place that requires work/duty) life is a bit lighter, easier. 

First, spend 5-10 minutes in quiet contemplation, mediation, or prayer.  This will help clear your mind so you can listen to your heart.  Then with paper and pen, begin writing 10 things that light you up.  Things that bring joy to your heart and a twinkle in your eye.  Do your best to cultivate some of these as you can, no pressure to do so.  Just pick one to delight yourself.

Much love to you, may we be lights in this world.

Here is my list, no particular order, because they are all important and available at different times.

  1. Walking in the woods, making trails
  2. Creating things to eat and drink in the kitchen
  3. Studying/learning new things, especially about plants and sacred things
  4. Music:  llistening and making it (piano and drum)
  5. Sewing (especially for someone whom I love)
  6. Water:  sswimming, walking near it, bathing, sitting on the shoreline, smelling it as it cascades over rocks
  7. Quiet time – alone time – writing time
  8. Candles
  9. Spending time with my husband and family, especially my grandchildren
  10. Dancing, oh the joy!  Especially spiritual dancing:  cconnecting, moving, expressing

Sleep Formula

The simple formula for a good night’s sleep:  

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Cool + Dark + Quiet2  = Good Sleep

The basic necessities of physical life are water and yes, air…but beyond that is sleep.  It is the reset function that allows you to gain or maintain homeostasis (balance).  This is essential for good health and vibrant energy.  It’s the missing link for many, so you are not alone.

 

For myself, C+D+Q2 works for consistent, quality sleep.  I have made it a choice and priority.  Just like the food choices I make, I look to the desired result for the motivation to develop habits that will be beneficial in my quest.  Are you motivated?  It does take repeated action and a desire to achieve the results, both are equally important.  So onward we go to the successful path of a sweet slumber.

Let’s breakdown the sleep formula. 

Cool.  Most find that a cool room in a cozy bed with blankets to be the ideal for great sleep. This is true for me.  Also, keep in mind that allowing your bed to be used only for sleep or for intimacy is helpful in training your body for quality sleep.  So cool, incorporates comfortable and intimate.

Dark.  Cover or remove the distracting lights of electronics.  Cover the windows with room darkening curtains or blinds will help also.  If you live in the woods as I do, then you don’t have to worry about glaring street lights, so drawing the shades is a choice. 

Quiet times two.  1.  A quiet space.   I often go to bed before my husband.  He is considerate and will use headphones so I don’t hear the tv in the other room or I tell him that I plan to use my ear buds (which I often do).   The ear buds serve two functions for me.  I listen to some meditative music or similar which offers sweet solace and leads us to number two.  2.   A quiet mind.  If you lay down and your mind just won’t switch off, there are a couple of things you can do.  One is to perform a brain dump on paper.  Just before laying down, write down the things that are on the top of your mind:  to do list for tomorrow, the worry over a previous conversation, up coming travel plans, etc.  Make it simple.  Then change directions and write a couple of thoughts/intentions you would like to happen, your dreams/aspirations.  Again, make it simple.  After that, climb into your cozy bed and listen to something quiet or inspiring.  Be sure to set a timer so it goes off in 15-30 minutes.  Anything sounds in your ears beyond that may wake you up.

Testimonial.  One of my most productive sleep habits is a regular bedtime.  When a regular bedtime occurs, your body prepares itself naturally for sleep and you don’t even have to look at the clock to know its sleep time.  I have found surpassing my normal bedtime,  usually results in a difficult time falling asleep.  I get my second wind and that carries me onward for a couple of more hours.  This is useful for the occasion that I would like to visit with loved ones, etc.  Even when I stay up later, I try to maintain the same wake up time.  This helps me sync for sleep the next night.  What about napping?  There is nothing wrong with napping.  Personally, I rarely need a nap, but when I do, I indulge.  Naps of a shorter duration are the best for me.  I have always thrived on a power nap of 15-20 minutes 

There you have it.  The makings of a good sleep routine.  It works, I can attest.

Sweet dreams!

A Better Way

Rose from MajorieIf I shall speak with every human and Angelic language and have no love in me, I shall be clanging brass or a noise-making cymbal.  And if I have prophecy, and I know all mysteries and all knowledge and if I have all faith so that I may remove mountains, and I have no love in me, I would be nothing.  And if I should feed everything that I have to the poor, and if I hand over my body to be burned up* and I have no love in me, I gain nothing. 

Love is patient and sweet; love does not envy; love is not upset neither puffed up.  Love does not commit what is shameful, neither does it seek its own; it is not provoked, neither does it entertain evil thoughts, rejoices not in evil, but rejoices in the truth, Endures all things, believes all things, hopes all, bears all.

Love never fails; for prophecies shall cease, tongues shall be silenced and knowledge will be nothing;  For we know partially and we prophesy partially,  But when perfection shall come, then that which is partial shall be nothing.  When I was a child, I was speaking as a child, I was led as a child, I was thinking as a child, but when I became a man, I ceased these childish things.  Now we see as in a mirror, in an allegory, but then face-to-face. Now I know partially, but then I shall know as I am known.  For there are these three things that endure: Faith, Hope and Love, but the greatest of these is Love.

1 Corinthians 13: 1-13    Translation:  Aramaic Bible in Plain English

Thanks to my friend, Marjorie for sending me this picture.   She took it last week, just after the first frost at her Georgian Bay ON home.  As she wrote me:  it’s beauty is still casting for me.    It reminds me of the love we share, although we have only met once.  It reminds me of the beauty of her heart and how we all have so much to give in so many ways.  Thank you my friend, for the love you share.

 

Attractiveness: More than a pretty face

Attractiveness is one of your best attributes!   This is not for, or from vanity, but for the sake of positively impacting the world in which you live.

Attractiveness supersedes physical beauty or a slim physique.  Attractiveness is wholeness, a completeness that wells up from within and springs forth to the world in:  beauty, joy, balance, warmth, love, service, and grace.  It is a feature that draws others to be inspired and encouraged.

Attractiveness is a quality that all of us can possess, more often than not it gets buried.  We are all made in the image of God.  We are the fabric of the Divine.  We are one song, a poem whose richness and abundance lies in wait to be expressed positively.

When we focus on the wholeness of being, when we surround ourself with positive, pure energy; Its light begins to magnify within us.  Then, Its radiance shines forward and toward the world in which we live.

We can choose to be a vessel of attractiveness.  Here are some ideas to help achieve this:

  1. Fill your mind and body with beauty and hopeful expectations.
  2. Practice mindfulness by being fully present in the moment.  Realize that multi-tasking can be counter productive and consider focusing on what matters at the moment.
  3. Enjoy the little things in life, such as:  the beauty of a sunrise/sunset, the chirping of a bird, the sound of a train, the blowing wind through the leaves, the shapes of the clouds, the splashing of raindrops, the vista of a beautiful photo or the fact that you can read or listen.

 

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There is beauty all around.  Open your eyes to it.  Draw it in, be filled and then exhale the beauty in the world in which you live.  As images of the Creator we all have Divinity with us.  As a Certified Holistic Health Coach, I can walk along side you and direct you to habits and practices that will increase your feeling of attractiveness.  It’s not just about the food you eat, it’s about the thoughts you think.  Send me a note, let’s talk.

 

Sleepwalking? Wake up and join

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For most of my life, I feel I have been sleep walking – in a slumber, not awake.  I have gone through the motions with the zest of my egoic personality.  Reaching forward, moving in the direction of my heart, but at the same time unfulfilled and always seeking balance and wholeness.  I  have always believed that we, as humans, exist in the physical on varying planes of our choosing.  My hearts desire has been to transcend the the rote, the ugly, the meaningless and exist on the plane of tranquility in the midst of the necessary doing. The being that was authentically me and didn’t stress nor worry about being right or wrong in the eyes of another.  To do no harm to anyone or any creature.  To see the sunrise, set, moon shine or not and be content – even thrive in its midst.  Although I haven’t transcended my humanity, I have discovered how to know and follow my bliss.  It is by living fully awake by seeding my consciousness, so that my subconscious is programed, not from my of environment or genetics (although both greatly influence me), but set free to live free with awakened consciousness.  Set free to love and not judge and blow on the flame that unites us together.  As much as I live free, I realize I need and yearn for this awakened/awakening community.  The strength of those gathered in singularity to live free and encourage each other in love, non-judgement and the beauty of simply living authentically, true to self while acknowledging our creator – experiencing “I am” in its fulness.  Join with me.  Let’s live fully awake and encourage one another.  Please subscribe to my blog and let’s discuss the bright possibilities of commonality, bliss, love and non-judgement.  I would love to hear from you.  How are you living free?  How are you overcoming the negative that is pervasive in our world today?  Let’s encourage each other.  We need each other.

Relationships

Relationships

Nothing else quite ties us to earth, from a heavenly perspective, as relationships.

We can be flying high and boom, a thunderbolt cracks and hits near our feet.  We are not struck, mortally, but impacted within:  a shuddering, a gut punch, an ache.

I look up to the clear skies, sun dappling the large leaves above my head.  Did they notice the bolt that electrified my heart?  Did they tremble as tears welled in my eyes?  Their calmness, gentleness caress my senses.  They do tremble in the almost still breeze with sweet empathy.  The spider casting its web says, “It’s ok.  This too shall pass.”

There are responses – whether in the right or in the wrong, whether misunderstood or overstepping another.  One is to love fully, completely, always.  The other is gratitude – communication when it comes from a dear one is precious and like it or not – there are always lessons to be learned.

I am open.  I am vulnerable.  I am love.

Julia Rae Parsell   5/15/2017